Wedding Anniversary Party
Parties for wedding anniversaries are generally only publicly celebrated
for the "jubilees" (25th Silver Wedding Anniversary, 50th
Golden Wedding Anniversary and possibly 60th, 70th or 75th). Theres
no real reason others cannot be celebrated but its unusual
for it to involve anything other than very close family or friends.
Even the 25th is not widely celebrated, the 50th is the big one.
If there is going to be a big celebration it is usually organised
by the children and needs to reflect the impression that the couples
years together have made on the world. It can mean a lot of work
because its common to track down friends from all those years
and to bring all the relatives together. It can mean an event involving
a hundred people, the organisers have to be up to it. Its
best if you set the budget first and then see how many people you
can bring in and cater for.
The order of events should be:
Guests arrive and can take off any coats to be placed somewhere
safe. They should be greeted by the Guests of Honour (the couple)
and there needs to be somewhere to put any gifts that are given
(not to be unwrapped at this point). Drinks should be available
wines, fruit juices and water for the guests after
being greeted plus some hors doeuvres to keep the hunger pangs
Once all the guests have arrived there should be a little period
for chatting then the meal is served. Nowadays the less formal buffet
style is usually preferred over a big sit-down meal, which gives
a friendly feel to the whole event. However a formal meal also has
advantages particularly when it comes to the giving of toasts and
After eating comes speeches and toasts keep the speeches
The first speech should be given by one of the couples children,
one of their parents (if still around), or by a brother or sister
of the couple. If none of these are available then a close, long-term
friend. The speech should be upbeat, definitely not mentioning anything
bad that might have happened between the couple at any time, it
should mention how they met, how soon they were married, any amusing
anecdote from their early relationship something thats
genuinely funny, not something embarrassing.
The speech can also include any messages received by close family
that could not attend. If a guest book has been created, or some
other joint gift, this is the time to present it to the couple.
While the speech is going on the guests should be supplied with
a glass of champagne each. It ends with a toast to the couple using
their first names: "Please raise your glasses, I give you David
After which one or other of the couple gives a short speech, essentially
thanking everyone for coming, thanking whoever organised it and
ending with the toast: "To family and friends".
The party now becomes relaxed and the dancing can take place. Music
should initially be from the period that the couple like best, after
that it can become more modern.